How do crossdressers and trans girls choose their femme name?
Furrow your brow and think back carefully… just how did you get your femme name? And did you pick a femme name from the very first day you started cross dressing… or was your name something which just sort of came along or appeared some time later?
I must say that this is quite a fascinating subject, especially as many of us can’t really answer the question—indeed, most seem to say that their femme name just appeared…. and just felt right for them. Most names come from our sub-conscious, possibly very much like the first appearance of our inner female self: we don’t know where she came from or why she suddenly appeared—but once she was here, we had this innate feeling that she was here to stay, that she would be part of us forever!
In many ways, we are lucky that we are able to choose our femme names, whereas genetic women are at the likes, whims (or mercy) of their parents who often deliberate for ages to think about and select a name for their daughters. This freedom of choice gives us unlimited scope to choose whatever name we wish, and can go for a modern day name or one from the annals of time.
Yet some of us are almost pre-ordained to have the names we choose and I feel quite sure there is a deeper side to femme names that can be explored ad infinitum; just why did we pick that name we choose, why did we need to label ourselves so; or why do we need to have a femme name at all—is it a tacit admission that there really are two souls or spirits within our one body? That we really are two people in one? Generally, it appears that many girls do not seem to pay as much attention to picking their last or surnames, which is not that surprising, as many girls only use and know others by their first names.
But, back to the main question. From talking with a number of crossdressers and trans girls, the most common ways in which they derived their first femme names include the following:
- Some girls simply make an extension to their male name, for example: Martin to Martina, Justin to Justine or Eric to Erica;
- Some make subtle or single letter changes: Francis to Frances, Robin to Robyn or Tracy to Tracey; or they pick a name that has similar sound qualities to their male name: Bill to Lil; Harry to Marie or Keith to Cathy;
- Others adopt names that are the same for both males and female and stay with the name they already have been given: say, Kim or Evelyn or Chris;
- A number of crossdressers select their femme name by choosing the name of someone they may know who is related to them, now or from the past, such as an aunt, a former teacher or a school colleague—someone who may have exuded womanhood in the style and manner our crossdresser aspires to;
- The selected name is the same as someone our CD/trans girl admires and looks up to, whether it be a celebrity or a famous sports person or singer;
- The femme name was suggested by someone else; or, finally:
- The right name just sort-of popped up into our conscious and stayed there; without us having to think about picking a femme name—and the name just seemed appropriate
I believe I fit into this last category… my femme name just, how can I say, appeared and became a part of me without me ever consciously realising it…
We also, as you would expect, have girls who feel the need to have more than one first name or hyphenate their name(s) (and why not, we are free to choose!). They choose names such: Christine Jane Jones or Kate Jennifer Smith or Tiffany Lori Johnson or Mary-Jane Wilson or Trixi-belle Angel…. and so on…
Finally, of course there are those CD’s or trans girls who deliberate at length, choosing and discarding names, then choosing and discarding all over again— choosing several different names over a period of time until they find the one which they feel fits them best.
Whichever way you found your name, don’t ever forget that it is she (the one within) who makes the choice so don’t be too puzzled or perplexed about why your femme name is Emily or Julie or Amber or Snowdrop—as long as your inner lady is happy, roll with it!
So, how about you, where did your femme name come from? Comment in the comments section!
I picked up my name when I wanted to have a feminine persona on aol when I first decided to re introduce myself to crossdressing. I had been watching the soap opera, Guiding Light at the time, & there was a beautiful brunette British character on at the time name Jenna. Loved her beauty and accent and the name just seemed so pretty, so I adopted it. I don't use a British accent en femme, but I try to have her classy style of dress when I am not having more erotic fun.
Once I began to accept myself, I started to call myself Kristi which was basically a derivation of Christie Brinkley's name. To me, she was the most beautiful woman there was and I longed to be her. Over time, as I came into full acceptance of myself, I wanted my own identity. My ex had a friend named Kristina who had a similar ethnic background to me. I fell in love with that name and knew that Kristina was the name for me!
A combination. The right name just sort of popped up in my mind. I had been dressing for some time and then chose to join a TG forum (sadly, now defunct). Well, a name was required.
Thinking about a choice, suddenly I remembered someone I had a definite crush on. Worked for the same company, also in management, but lived a couple hundred miles away, so nothing would ever come about. Still, I could not shake from my mind how attractive that gal was to me and how I longed to present much the same enfemme.
So Lydia it was to be!
Good post. I did choose mine because: My first CD name was feminizing my second male name (Alfonso), and I did choose by myself the Dimitria (the second CD name). My female name is Alfonsina Dmitria Simonovitch, because the name of a character I'll create for a fighting game I want to produce (Alfonsina there is a cisgender woman, sister of Ojitsack Andreij Simonovitch, which fight alongside him in one of the tournaments, her fighting style is the Pentjak Silat).
My name was sort of given to me by my mother. She thought I was going to be a girl even the doctors thought so with the way the scans were in the 80s. The only one who betted on me being a boy was my father. My mother was so proud that I've chosen that name when I came out to her.
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