Crossdressing gives me fulfillment: It makes me whole
Crossdressing gives me fulfillment: it makes me whole, makes me feel happy and content
Almost every crossdresser will tell you roughly the same thing about their dressing journey.
Such a journey may have started from tentative beginnings, perhaps when they accidentally discovered they enjoyed wearing certain articles of women’s clothing to all the way to developing the finished product years later—a beautiful woman adorned in her En Femme outfits, with make-up, wigs, jewelry and other adornments, going out and about on the town, wanting to be seen and admired.
On the other hand, not every crossdresser ends up completing their journey by being a fully dressed, completely made-up beauty—and there are plenty who stop at different stages along the way; they may simply enjoy dressing in the confines of their homes in bras and panties, stockings and garters from En Femme, and admiring in the mirror how they look; others may go for a certain look such as short mini-skirts and tight tops, high heels -a look some may call girly or slutty but, hey, our crossdresser knows what he likes and why not?
Then there are crossdressers who, somewhere along the way, realize that they absolutely need to do more than just dress occasionally and, in fact, are on the transgender side of the spectrum—and that they really need to be living full–time as a female (with or without cosmetic or other surgery).
So, even though we are all fundamentally similar in having the unquenchable, unresolved desire to cross dress, what we sometimes tend to disagree on are two key things: first, why we cross dress and, second, what does dressing up as a female bring to our lives?
If you did a survey among a good sample of crossdressers and posed to them the following questions, I’m sure many of the answers would be something along the lines of:
Crossdressing:
- helps me relax after a stressful day at work or with the family; it’s so wonderful to take some time to myself, be able to shower, shave and slip into slinky underwear, a tight-fitting dress and become my alter ego, even if it’s only for a few hours or so.
- allows the more feminine side of me to be revealed every so often; not every man has to be a macho-type who loves to race cars or motorbikes and or get his hands dirty changing engine oil; many of us have a more sensitive side lying semi–dormant within and it’s great to be able to enjoy this side of ourselves.
- allows me to express myself outside of the confines of the traditional male role people expect me to play every day; men are so confined by colors and styles and shapes of clothing, the way they are expected to behave and respond to certain situations.
- is an experience which others who do not cross dress can never truly appreciate; the overpowering sense of enchantment never goes away; the excitement is forever there and the anticipation leading up to a time when you can cross dress is unmatched.
- brings me a peace of mind which you cannot seem to find with other activities such as playing or watching sport, or meeting with (male) friends where the conversation centers around things which don’t really interest me
And lastly a BIG one:
It makes me feel whole, it make me feel complete! It’s almost as if a missing part of my life, of my character, of me suddenly falls into place and I am a better, all-around person when dressed in women’s clothes. Apart from the physical changes I can make to my appearance, my character changes, my perspective on life is different and I am more content and at peace with myself and the world (at least for a while)!
Do any of these thoughts resonate with you? Do you see any similarities in the way you feel and how you look at the world when you are in your En Femme attire? If so, post a comment below us and let us know!
This last few months have been very exciting for me. I have been able to develop and enjoy my feminine side. This all started when I was maybe 11 or 12. My wonderful mother let me play dress up with her stuff. This was shoes, stockings, bra, panties. It was our secret. I would love to know why it was okay with her. I always have enjoyed shopping with girlfriends, wife, etc. Okay, up to now. I do have some private time when my wife is out of town. I love my better half beyond, but I also want to be Jess for a while. I love the feeling of femininity. I love wearing a dress, panties, pantyhose, and heels. Do you know what I like the most? I totally love wearing a bra. I feel really complete with a bra on. I wear a 40B, with a front closure(its just easier). I like the B cup because, for me, I like having smaller breasts. That's the woman I want to be. I love the snugness of my bra, and so nice to feel the straps on my shoulders. I am looking forward to getting some En Femme inserts. I can't imagine what it will be like having a very gentle weight pulling my bra down. I have no plans on coming out. This is all so early for me. I checked to see if there was some type of a community for a very modest T girl like myself, but the local websites looked to be escort services. I don't want that. I'd like to connect with another T girl like myself just to share our journeys with each other. I'm not looking to date someone, just a fellow "en femme" girl with whom I
can have some girl talk with. If it doesn't work out, I'm okay with that. I just love being a woman in private. I love those occasions when I can be a woman.
Love to all,
Jess
Kathy, thank you for presenting this forum and discussion and giving the opportunity to realize there are so many other Tgirls who share my fascination and desire to express our soft sides. My first introduction to my feminine self was when I was 4 or 5 years old and wanted desperately to wear nail polish and lipstick. My desires increased through my teenage years, all while pushing down the urge to show that side of me. I played a lot of competitive sports growing up but couldn't get into the whole "guy thing". To help satisfy my calling, I shaped by eyebrows and fashioned my own breast forms (thankful for silicone these days!!) as well as some homemade accessories and used them as often as possible. For years, I rode a roller coaster of binge and purge but now, I'm locked into my identity and have accepted my feelings and interests in being pretty. And I love lingerie! Why should all the real girls have all the fun?! They occupy my thoughts like never before and I'm now more comfortable with who I am, thanks to En Femme's Learning Center advice and products. ;-) Thank you, thank you, thank you! Kisses…Dani
The similarities are mirrored in two part personalities, when i am grumpy or irritable my wife tells me it's time for me to go and bring Abbie. As Abbie Michelle i am totally EnFemme. I love being Abbie. My prospective on life and attitude completely change, i am HAPPY.
It puzzles me how Society totally accepts women and girls dressing and acting completely as men and men dressing EnFemme is viewed as well "weird". As a man I'm scared to be seen dressed as a woman.
Thankfully as Abbie i care less about society and more about being happy.
As Abbie Michelle i am lesbian trapped in a mans body.
I love my wife even more for her support and welcoming of Abbie.
I recently allowed my best friend to meet Abbie, since when he called to visit i was already Abbie i asked him if it would bother him. Luckily he accepted my invitation and met me as Abbie. When he later continued to talk to me as if nothing had changed i felt relief.
And as for Abbie Michelle, I'm completely content to be her as often as time allows.
As for my male side I now wear panties every day and only women's deodorant and nair away hair from my legs and chest and uggg back often.
To all who read this, We only have one life so find your happiness and may you be Blessed.
Crossdressing…
Well, femme dressing since in my case, I am a 'female' (in other words what most would call a woman but make no mistake-I am a femme)…
That said, most of the time, my attire (if I am wearing anything!) is draping and not flattering since back home, you do have to carry everything with you wherever you go, so utilitarian is the best way unless you're not going far.
Anyway, I still incorporate femininity into my attire, but when I go full femme, I make sure that everything I wear flatters my bust, my waist, my arse, my legs, and so on. Now, this is something I do in two modes of attire.
Mode one:
If I am going to be volunteering at Paulina's (a dressing service in my hometown), I usually look to dress like a professional stylist (I do makeup and hair mostly), though I always make sure I am pleasing on the eyes of those that walk in, after all, we will be together for a little while. So, I make sure that I have all my attributes flattered by my attire, and I typically wear a knee-length skirt and a long sleeve tunic (blouse). I wear my heeled leather boots because those go with anything, thigh high stockings (or leggings if the weather is less than favorable), and subtle but gorgeous makeup. I tend to go for nails and lips matching.
Mode two:
I am well-trained and self-trained in the art of advanced athletics, the sword and stealth. When I gear up for this training, it is in skintight leather that not only flatters my figure, it covers the bare minimum and to some, less than. Yeah, let us just say that the lighter, the faster, the more agile, the quieter, you get the idea.
My leather gear consists of a pair of all-terrain leather boots with a broad two-inch heel, leather garter belt and crossbelt (utility type belt), sturdy alleworm silk stockings and bodysuit, a pair of leather gloves that are fingerless, and a custom made leather bustier for my 40 D bust.
All my leather is fire-tempered, which makes it resistant to a lot of things, even more so than typical leather gear. The best way to gauge if you're carrying light is to see how much your carry is compared to your weight; ten percent or less is best for light, and stealthy. My leather gear is about eight percent of my weight at seventeen pounds altogether, not that this is important (or is it?)
One thing to remember is that when your figure is flattered, silk, satin, lace and leather make the femme dressing experience the most amazing.
Oh, and yes, if you feel the need to get off/rub one out/whatever you call it, don't ever deny yourself that pleasure. I know I don't, lol
~Amyrakunejo, red and ebony haired vixen in red lipstick; 'Lesbo' CEO of PHANTOM Ent.; frontwoman of KB; advocate of femininity, anarchy and rock music
Through the years I have felt all of that. relax after a tough day, allowing the other side, experiencing enchantment and excitement, peace of mind. I have been dressing as long as I can remember. I didn't even know there were others until I read Dear Abby and she used the word 'transvestite' … gee! if there was a word I must not be unique. In my 40's I started going out, and even was so bold as to perform in drag shows, In my 50's I got legal status to agree with my inner woman, now I am a complete woman (just without surgery) I am on hormone therapy through the VA (gasp, the VA is helping a combat veteran to be a woman) I have run the gambit.
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