Crossdressing gives me fulfillment: It makes me whole

 Crossdressing is Fulfilling

Crossdressing gives me fulfillment: it makes me whole, makes me feel happy and content

Almost every crossdresser will tell you roughly the same thing about their dressing journey.

Such a journey may have started from tentative beginnings, perhaps when they accidentally discovered they enjoyed wearing certain articles of women’s clothing to all the way to developing the finished product years later—a beautiful woman adorned in her En Femme outfits, with make-up, wigs, jewelry and other adornments, going out and about on the town, wanting to be seen and admired.

On the other hand, not every crossdresser ends up completing their journey by being a fully dressed, completely made-up beauty—and there are plenty who stop at different stages along the way; they may simply enjoy dressing in the confines of their homes in bras and panties, stockings and garters from En Femme, and admiring in the mirror how they look; others may go for a certain look such as short mini-skirts and tight tops, high heels -a look some may call girly or slutty but, hey, our crossdresser knows what he likes and why not?

Then there are crossdressers who, somewhere along the way, realize that they absolutely need to do more than just dress occasionally and, in fact, are on the transgender side of the spectrum—and that they really need to be living full–time as a female (with or without cosmetic or other surgery).

So, even though we are all fundamentally similar in having the unquenchable, unresolved desire to cross dress, what we sometimes tend to disagree on are two key things: first, why we cross dress and, second, what does dressing up as a female bring to our lives?

If you did a survey among a good sample of crossdressers and posed to them the following questions, I’m sure many of the answers would be something along the lines of:


  • helps me relax after a stressful day at work or with the family; it’s so wonderful to take some time to myself, be able to shower, shave and slip into slinky underwear, a tight-fitting dress and become my alter ego, even if it’s only for a few hours or so.
  • allows the more feminine side of me to be revealed every so often; not every man has to be a macho-type who loves to race cars or motorbikes and or get his hands dirty changing engine oil; many of us have a more sensitive side lying semi–dormant within and it’s great to be able to enjoy this side of ourselves.
  • allows me to express myself outside of the confines of the traditional male role people expect me to play every day; men are so confined by colors and styles and shapes of clothing, the way they are expected to behave and respond to certain situations. 
  • is an experience which others who do not cross dress can never truly appreciate; the overpowering sense of enchantment never goes away; the excitement is forever there and the anticipation leading up to a time when you can cross dress is unmatched.
  • brings me a peace of mind which you cannot seem to find with other activities such as playing or watching sport, or meeting with (male) friends where the conversation centers around things which don’t really interest me

 And lastly a BIG one:

It makes me feel whole, it make me feel complete! It’s almost as if a missing part of my life, of my character, of me suddenly falls into place and I am a better, all-around person when dressed in women’s clothes. Apart from the physical changes I can make to my appearance, my character changes, my perspective on life is different and I am more content and at peace with myself and the world (at least for a while)!

Do any of these thoughts resonate with you? Do you see any similarities in the way you feel and how you look at the world when you are in your En Femme attire? If so, post a comment below us and let us know!


  • Jane Weston

    WOW! Whole, Happy and Content! YES! My journey to be able to proclaim yes, began decades ago as a boy. My mother introduced me to crossdressing. Whether accidentally or intentionally, I do not know. She encouraged me to enjoy playing en femme. I loved it then and I love it now. This journey was not without struggles. My father and aunt found me enjoying being dressed as a girl. The results were ugly, loaded with shame and guilt.
    I am certain I am not the only crossdresser who has had such an encounter. After decades of purging and claiming “never to dress again”, I now embrace being Jane. Why? Because I agree. It is fulfillment. It makes me complete. It makes me HAPPY! No more shame. No more guilt. Have fun and enjoy dressing.

    Jane Weston.

  • Lorena

    I need not go into a whole scenario. The comment by and lastly the Big One among others explains how i feel when I am dressed.
    I have known since I was a very young boy of 4 or five that I was suppose to have been a girl, watching my mother doing her beautiful long hair in curlers and make up, to the beauty salon going with her on Saturdays or on Wednesdays with my other mom my Grandmother I would sit and watch as they got their hair done. I wanted the same this continued for many years then had to stop because I was to old to continue going into the salons that then were for women only strictly off limits for women.
    This all changed when I was 12 years old when I got into trouble with my Mom’s Beautician’s son and we spent the entire summer working in the salon as girls and having to dress full time as girls. I found that very soon after that first day in the salon where a complete change for the better was completed in the salon that my whole attitude changed for the better I liked the way I looked and felt, my mom and I got along much better I rarely got into any trouble I was just HAPPY. Today many years later now retired world traveler I can still enjoy those feelings when I dress which is almost every day and more when I travel. My Moto If you Don’t Like What You See, There Is Another Side Of The Street USE IT!!

  • Michelle

    I have always been blissfully aroused by crossdressing, and for me I think its because I loved women from very, very young, and then discovered that by dressing in their lingerie, putting on lipstick, watching and feeling the tights go over my legs, feeling the bra straps over my shoulders, feeling my fake breasts with my hands, it connects me with a woman’s sensuality like nothing else really can. It gets my heart thumping like the first time you make love. It’s a wonderful feeling. xxxx

  • Kate

    You are absolutely right. It brings out my feminine self. I love the sensual feel of lovely lingerie, hosiery, and form fitting outerwear. I love feeling like a gorgeous woman.

  • Veronica Raines

    As a young man, I wasn't bad looking, but down inside I wasn't happy. I thought, and felt homely. I would look at a girl, and see their beauty, there beautiful clothes, make up, hair, well just everything. I loved to watch them, as they would get excited, and jump up and down, and just be happy. They didn't have to act tough, because they were and and will always be girls. Girls, ladies, women, there is really no name that you can call them, except fantastically beautiful. I wanted so much to be one of them. Instead, I was always mister tough guy. That is, on the outside. Inside I was a soft, nice, happy free spirited girl. When I finally dressed Enfemme, all of that changed. All my anger, hate, and mister tough guy went away. I was happy, and content. I was free!!! As time passed, all those feeling felt bigger, and bigger. I always slept in the nude, but now I can't go to bed, without being beautiful Veronica, wearing her nighties. I tried once, and tossed and turned for hours, so I got up and put the proper nighties on, and fell right to sleep. Being Veronica has made me feel alive. I sit in my comfortable chair, reading, or watching TV and I'll stop and look at whatever ladies clothes I'm wearing, especially my breasts, then I'll clothes my eyes and feel the beautiful, calm, and wonderful sensation of being what I always wanted to be. A female. Gods greatest gift to this wonderful world we live on.

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