Crossdressing gives me fulfillment: It makes me whole

 Crossdressing is Fulfilling

Crossdressing gives me fulfillment: it makes me whole, makes me feel happy and content

Almost every crossdresser will tell you roughly the same thing about their dressing journey.

Such a journey may have started from tentative beginnings, perhaps when they accidentally discovered they enjoyed wearing certain articles of women’s clothing to all the way to developing the finished product years later—a beautiful woman adorned in her En Femme outfits, with make-up, wigs, jewelry and other adornments, going out and about on the town, wanting to be seen and admired.

On the other hand, not every crossdresser ends up completing their journey by being a fully dressed, completely made-up beauty—and there are plenty who stop at different stages along the way; they may simply enjoy dressing in the confines of their homes in bras and panties, stockings and garters from En Femme, and admiring in the mirror how they look; others may go for a certain look such as short mini-skirts and tight tops, high heels -a look some may call girly or slutty but, hey, our crossdresser knows what he likes and why not?

Then there are crossdressers who, somewhere along the way, realize that they absolutely need to do more than just dress occasionally and, in fact, are on the transgender side of the spectrum—and that they really need to be living full–time as a female (with or without cosmetic or other surgery).

So, even though we are all fundamentally similar in having the unquenchable, unresolved desire to cross dress, what we sometimes tend to disagree on are two key things: first, why we cross dress and, second, what does dressing up as a female bring to our lives?

If you did a survey among a good sample of crossdressers and posed to them the following questions, I’m sure many of the answers would be something along the lines of:

Crossdressing:

  • helps me relax after a stressful day at work or with the family; it’s so wonderful to take some time to myself, be able to shower, shave and slip into slinky underwear, a tight-fitting dress and become my alter ego, even if it’s only for a few hours or so.
  • allows the more feminine side of me to be revealed every so often; not every man has to be a macho-type who loves to race cars or motorbikes and or get his hands dirty changing engine oil; many of us have a more sensitive side lying semi–dormant within and it’s great to be able to enjoy this side of ourselves.
  • allows me to express myself outside of the confines of the traditional male role people expect me to play every day; men are so confined by colors and styles and shapes of clothing, the way they are expected to behave and respond to certain situations. 
  • is an experience which others who do not cross dress can never truly appreciate; the overpowering sense of enchantment never goes away; the excitement is forever there and the anticipation leading up to a time when you can cross dress is unmatched.
  • brings me a peace of mind which you cannot seem to find with other activities such as playing or watching sport, or meeting with (male) friends where the conversation centers around things which don’t really interest me

 And lastly a BIG one:


It makes me feel whole, it make me feel complete! It’s almost as if a missing part of my life, of my character, of me suddenly falls into place and I am a better, all-around person when dressed in women’s clothes. Apart from the physical changes I can make to my appearance, my character changes, my perspective on life is different and I am more content and at peace with myself and the world (at least for a while)!

Do any of these thoughts resonate with you? Do you see any similarities in the way you feel and how you look at the world when you are in your En Femme attire? If so, post a comment below us and let us know!


27 comments


  • Veronica Raines

    As a young man, I wasn't bad looking, but down inside I wasn't happy. I thought, and felt homely. I would look at a girl, and see their beauty, there beautiful clothes, make up, hair, well just everything. I loved to watch them, as they would get excited, and jump up and down, and just be happy. They didn't have to act tough, because they were and and will always be girls. Girls, ladies, women, there is really no name that you can call them, except fantastically beautiful. I wanted so much to be one of them. Instead, I was always mister tough guy. That is, on the outside. Inside I was a soft, nice, happy free spirited girl. When I finally dressed Enfemme, all of that changed. All my anger, hate, and mister tough guy went away. I was happy, and content. I was free!!! As time passed, all those feeling felt bigger, and bigger. I always slept in the nude, but now I can't go to bed, without being beautiful Veronica, wearing her nighties. I tried once, and tossed and turned for hours, so I got up and put the proper nighties on, and fell right to sleep. Being Veronica has made me feel alive. I sit in my comfortable chair, reading, or watching TV and I'll stop and look at whatever ladies clothes I'm wearing, especially my breasts, then I'll clothes my eyes and feel the beautiful, calm, and wonderful sensation of being what I always wanted to be. A female. Gods greatest gift to this wonderful world we live on.


  • Jaye Dee

    Hello everyone, these are my thoughts; when I am dressed it just feels so right to me. I used to have guilt feeling(s) about wearing female clothing but as the years passed and I dressed more and more it was evident that I had strong feminine feeling(s). I love the fact(s) that I have a feminine figure when I am dressed but that is attained by the addition of garments designed to give me that "look". It just feels so natural for me to put on a bra and insert my forms (wish my breasts were real), slide on a pair of panties, put on my pantyhose and everything else that a woman would wear. I really can't explain it except to say that I just feel this is me!!!!!! I have thought about transitioning but now that I am in my 70's (I'm an old hen) I don't think that is a viable option. so I dress as the woman I was supposed to be. I have even had sexual fantasy's as a woman but haven't acted upon them, not because I'm to old but because I don't cheat!!!!! If I could, I would live the remainder of my life as a woman


  • Emeline

    I feel complete and at peace and happy that I can now crossdress and I enjoy going out . It may shock some people but I don’t care I am comfortable in my out skin and very happy


  • Renske

    For me it is so relaxing and especially when I start to get into the preparation of becoming Renske is such a great feeling it's indescribable feeling.
    I remember one time when I was in the hotel, puting on my nice lingerie, stockings, make up and wig, when I was compleetly ready I looked at myself in the mirror and thought woww who is this lovely lady and I just fel in love with my self immage, this was something so strange I realy felt butterflies in my stomach.
    And when I am dressed I can look at my self in the mirror for a long time and admier all my curves and even give myself compliments on how I look, is it strange, no for me it feels good, the only strange thing for me is that when I am in the man mode I never look in the mirror or give myself compliments, what does that say??
    Thank you for these very nice post's and a great website where we can have so much information and great stories from all of us.

    Love and kisses,
    Renske xx


  • Jessica

    I didn't start till my late 30's. Like everyone else, I couldn't believe how much it changed me physically! My blood pressure went down and just felt a tremendous sense of calm. I really felt a side of me coming out that I didn't know existed. Like so many my femme side became so much more desirable. I was so sad when I had to put her back in the closet. Putting make up on and trying to perfect it is sooo much fun! I never liked shopping before, but began to love it! It's fun to find new outfits and try them on. I've spent a lot of money on this site as it was very helpful and a quality product, not to mention outstanding fashions! I know if I could go 24/7 I would. Maybe someday!! :)


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