How do crossdressers and trans girls choose their femme name?

Choosing your New CD Femme Name 

 

Furrow your brow and think back carefully… just how did you get your femme name? And did you pick a femme name from the very first day you started cross dressing… or was your name something which just sort of came along or appeared some time later?

I must say that this is quite a fascinating subject, especially as many of us can’t really answer the question—indeed, most seem to say that their femme name just appeared…. and just felt right for them. Most names come from our sub-conscious, possibly very much like the first appearance of our inner female self: we don’t know where she came from or why she suddenly appeared—but once she was here, we had this innate feeling that she was here to stay, that she would be part of us forever!

In many ways, we are lucky that we are able to choose our femme names, whereas genetic women are at the likes, whims (or mercy) of their parents who often deliberate for ages to think about and select a name for their daughters. This freedom of choice gives us unlimited scope to choose whatever name we wish, and can go for a modern day name or one from the annals of time.  

Yet some of us are almost pre-ordained to have the names we choose and I feel quite sure there is a deeper side to femme names that can be explored ad infinitum; just why did we pick that name we choose, why did we need to label ourselves so; or why do we need to have a femme name at all—is it a tacit admission that there really are two souls or spirits within our one body? That we really are two people in one? Generally, it appears that many girls do not seem to pay as much attention to picking their last or surnames, which is not that surprising, as many girls only use and know others by their first names. 

But, back to the main question. From talking with a number of crossdressers and trans girls, the most common ways in which they derived their first femme names include the following:

  • Some girls simply make an extension to their male name, for example: Martin to Martina, Justin to Justine or Eric to Erica;
  • Some make subtle or single letter changes: Francis to Frances, Robin to Robyn or Tracy to Tracey; or they pick a name that has similar sound qualities to their male name: Bill to Lil; Harry to Marie or Keith to Cathy;
  • Others adopt names that are the same for both males and female and stay with the name they already have been given: say, Kim or Evelyn or Chris;
  • A number of crossdressers select their femme name by choosing the name of someone they may know who is related to them, now or from the past, such as an aunt, a former teacher or a school colleague—someone who may have exuded womanhood in the style and manner our crossdresser aspires to;
  • The selected name is the same as someone our CD/trans girl admires and looks up to, whether it be a celebrity or a famous sports person or singer;
  • The femme name was suggested by someone else; or, finally:
  • The right name just sort-of popped up into our conscious and stayed there; without us having to think about picking a femme name—and the name just seemed appropriate

I believe I fit into this last category… my femme name just, how can I say, appeared and became a part of me without me ever consciously realising it…

We also, as you would expect, have girls who feel the need to have more than one first name or hyphenate their name(s) (and why not, we are free to choose!). They choose names such: Christine Jane Jones or Kate Jennifer Smith or Tiffany Lori Johnson or Mary-Jane Wilson or Trixi-belle Angel…. and so on… 

Finally, of course there are those CD’s or trans girls who deliberate at length, choosing and discarding names, then choosing and discarding all over again— choosing several different names over a period of time until they find the one which they feel fits them best.

Whichever way you found your name, don’t ever forget that it is she (the one within) who makes the choice so don’t be too puzzled or perplexed about why your femme name is Emily or Julie or Amber or Snowdrop—as long as your inner lady is happy, roll with it!

So, how about you, where did your femme name come from? Comment in the comments section!


70 comments


  • Stephany Ann

    My X started calling me Stephany at first I wasn’t sure. However I realized quite soon It fit! I’m Stephany😁


  • Tommi

    Just Tom to Tommi but it signifies that she is me and always has been.


  • Jessica Ann
    I started crossdressing in my teens, but didn’t have a name for my feminine side until my mid 20s. I picked Jessia because I thought that name was so beautiful and feminine. Not fully sure as to why I picked Ann as my middle name. I have an aunt with that name. She helped to raise me in my later teen years, so maybe that had something to do with it. It could just be that I liked the way that it flowed off the tongue with Jessica. What ever it was back then, at this point in my life it is a bit of both. I chose Flowers as my sure name because at the time I was chosing , or was it, discovering, my feminine name the whole Clinton affair scandal was going on. While I never really paid much attention to that scandal, I found myself intrigued by Jennifer Flowers name. The Jennifer part didn’t resonate with me, but the Flowers part sure did. I think that I liked that it was pretty and feminine sounding, and in the imagery that it conveys, but also that it was actually someone’s last name. Now that I am a few short days from my 51st birthday I find that the name Jessica Ann Flowers is as much a part of me as the name that my parents gave me upon my birth. When I’m enfemme mode that incredibly beautiful name fits who I am. That name is a part of who I am always, but when I am able to touch or express my inner feminine side that is the name that just screams its way up from my soul. That name makes me feel beautiful and feminine in a way that makes my heart weep with joy.

  • Heather

    Hi girls. I'm new to the site and excited to learn. I've been a closeted CD for as long as I can remember, starting back at puberty wearing my mom's bikini swimsuit. I chose my female name a long time ago for several reasons. 1) I think Heather is a beautiful name. 2) Any Heather I've ever met is drop dead gorgeous. And 3), the primary reason, when broken down, it has meaning for me. He-at-her. When this HE is dressed to be HER, she is HE-AT-HER, Heather.


  • Effie

    My name came about recently after many years of a slow development of my inner girl. My given boy name is Jeffrey , or Jeff for short. My aunt would always call me jeffie, ( could she sense the inner girl in me)? So my newly chosen CD name is a play on my given name.. jeffie = Effie!


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