How to Walk in High Heels

High heels - a balancing act?

Balancing In High Heels

Rather like choosing breast forms and trying to resist the temptation to purchase a seriously large “set” of forms, most girls often feel that they should buy that “killer’’ pair of 4 inch heels to make themselves look more feminine. All well and good, and En Femme offers a wide range of shoes for all tastes.

Yet, before giving in to temptation (and, wow…, what a temptation!), stop and consider a couple of things:

  • Where am I actually going to wear these magnificent heels?
  • How am I, in reality, going to walk (very far) in them?

If you are content to prance around your home or other safe place in back-strapped 4 inch heels, corset or bodice and black suspender belt that's perfectly understandable - after all, a girl needs some private fun, doesn't she?

But if you are planning to go out and about, maybe hitting the town in a short mini, showing off your sexy legs, it’s worth taking some time to practice, practice and practice again walking around in your (very) high heels. As most girls know, fundamentally, high heels are to push the pelvis forward and make real ladies look that much more sexier—both in their walk and their posture.

In any event, you don’t need me to tell you that men walk differently from women and that even genetic girls have to practice how to elegantly walk more than few meters in high heels!

So, where do you start?

Well, I always think it’s worth spending some minutes practicing walking like a woman in flat shoes or barefoot first: you know, keep your steps smaller, keep your feet closer together as you pace, almost letting your feet cross over each other as you move forward. Another tip for beginners is to suck your stomach in and fractionally delay the forward movement of one of your legs as you walk; this gives a mild sway to your walk—but avoid over exaggerating the wiggles of your hips (if you have any of note, that is)…

Phew! Sounds difficult… well, it’s not and, after a few times walking like a female, it all becomes second nature.

Now, try the above wearing your heels—see it’s easy, right? In fact these shoes simply add another dimension to the way you walk, adding just that little extra wiggle to your hips and posterior, making you look and feel sexy in your newly purchased pair of En Femme heels!

After the first few slow paces, you’ll find balancing is not really a major issue in your 4” heels but you, clearly, need to watch out for stairs, crevices, steep slopes or other obstructions in the surface you are walking on… and, of course, try and avoid the natural temptation to still walk like a man! Undoubtedly, the forward tilt which the shoes will give to your pelvis will have to compensated for, and there will be a fair amount of pressure of the front of your feet, plus, of course, some aches or pain in the lower part of your calf muscles to contend with—but, hey, what’s a little bit of discomfort compared to looking like the proverbial “million dollars”?

Anyway, you’ll soon get the hang of walking in high heels and after a few times out and about you’ll be quite an expert; you’ll find your own style and walking rhythm—but, even so, don’t plan on walking more than a few hundred meters in your high heels if you can help it, as it can be hard work!

There again, maybe just hire a chauffeur for the night to ferry you around and drop you outside of your destination… nice thought…


12 comments


  • Amyrakunejo

    One thing about heels I will add in is that not all heels are the same.

    You see, the thinner the heel, the less of a balance coefficient there is in the heel, and the more you'll have to rely on the forward half of your feet for said balance. If you're wearing platforms, you have even less reliable balance and will likely be ninety-five to one hundred percent reliant on the forward half of the shoe for balance, in which if you're a thorough beginner at this, means you're going to be endangering yourself. Of course, I won't go full on into the history of heeled footwear but long story short, the intent was never to walk in, but to pose for portraits in.

    Anyway, back to heel differences. The larger, or more accurately, broader the heel, the better balance you'll have from the heel overall. Wedge heels, while thin at the center, tend to provide better balance than a block heel, though block heels do come in a variety of broadness and thickness so that will vary.

    FTR, block heels tend to be the most practical for daily wear and will provide the most comfort, especially if one has to travel far on foot and if that travel crosses multiple types of terrain like mine does going from my hometown to the Academy I attend; I have a pair of lovely leather boots with a two inch block heel that have gotten me across sand, valleys, rivers, marshes, through caves and over mountains, as well as propel me through my combat training and have also been very useful in getting my parkour jumps higher.

    Anyway, coming back to heel types. Spike/stiletto heels (the differences are mostly artistic and both function pretty much the same) are going to provide the least amount of balance and are the easiest to break as well as completely demolish (I've seen people land jumps and falls in these kinds of heels only to land them improperly in a moment of panic and completely destroy the structure of the heel and when that happens the entire heel has to be replaced – yes I've done this myself and it's not fun recovering from this). When people tell you to force your weight onto the balls of your feet, this is especially important when wearing spike or stiletto heels because the structure of these heels were designed to push your center of gravity forward, not to rest your weight on them. It may be very easy to give in to the temptation of easing your center of gravity back when you're standing still, but that's the worst thing you can do; I've seen heels snap just from a few seconds of this. If you're having a hard time or are needing to rest, in high heels like these, walls, rails, leaning posts, and other objects of the like are your best friends, but to be fair, if you're that tired, you should be off your feet entirely, sitting cross-legged or with your legs closed while you rest. Take it from me; doing all the wall jumps, shimmies (scaling a wall entirely using your upper arm strength), wall hang flips, wall runs, wall flips, wall presses (the act of pushing oneself off a wall towards another wall or a similar close by object using your feet-also called a 'two footed wall plant'), wall pushes (same as a wall press only you use your hands-also called an 'inverted wall plant'), wall run presses (instead of a wall flip you do a wall press after a wall run which is also known as a 'foot plant boost'), and four-points (landing on all fours from high up), you can bet that I most certainly wouldn't be standing to rest, in fact you might find me on the nearest flat surface, napping.

    My training can be exhausting, since after all, I come up with my own training exercises. I've scaled high top plateaus with just my parkour skills alone, and in my two inch heeled boots no less. I wouldn't try this in six inch stiletto heels though (the structure of the heel would likely not be able to withstand the shear forces applied from the odd angles of various surfaces). Yes, a lot of my parkour training involves landing and pushing off with just the forward halves of my feet.

    And, that went way off the topic of heel types, but it did go pretty well into detail of practicality.

    If you're struggling to walk a whole block in heels, you should practice in lower heels until you can walk a long distance in them, no matter the heel type.
    And never rest on the heels themselves, even block or wedge heels still have the same structural issues even if they can take more structural strife.

    Oh, and don't try riding extreme sport vehicles in heels; the lack of balance in the heels will make riding a skateboard or a longboard difficult, especially the former if you like doing tricks like kickflips/other board flipping tricks, manuals (wheelies), and grinds/slides (riding a rail or a ledge or similar surface-grinds involve the trucks and slides involve the board itself), because balancing during manuals and grinds with just the balls of your feet is not only a dangerous prospect but extremely difficult to do. You won't likely be doing any heelflips in spike or stiletto heels either since that requires a lot of force to rotate the board and with less ability to force the board to rotate, you'll likely make the board go wonky and bail. Oh yeah, bailing in heels is a good way to snap them.

    Riding a bike of any kind in heels (motorcycles are a bit of an exception) is not recommended; even BMX bikes won't be easy to manage in heels, though I have seen it done, not recommended because getting those caught in any moving part will one hundred percent result in a bail, snapping the heel and likely injuring the rider. Though I don't think it would be likely one would get pitched over the handlebars (this is the worst kind of bicycle/BMX bail I've ever seen), catching the heel in the chains and ending up with both a snapped heel and a busted fib and tib, not fun for anyone, and then after that heals, you'll have to re-learn walking in heels because it is one of those skills that is both tolerance and ability. Ya lose that when you're not walking in them.

    Motorcycling with heels is something that can be done, just don't try to come to a quick stop while wearing them (the kind of quick stop I speak of is the side stop that involves using your leg which in and of itself is dangerous but that's countered by leaning the bike properly). There's so much that can go wrong, that I won't explain in detail. Also, be careful with certain terrain types, whether you're in heels or not because there's nothing worse than trying to make a side stop in terrain like…SAND. (I won't go into detail but know that SAND is any two-wheeler's worst enemy.)

    Now, posing with any of the above for photos, in your sexiest, if that's your thing, rock it! I've seen photos of chicks in high heels with skateboards nestled between their legs and that's honestly pretty damn hot.


  • Willbe

    One thing we girls must realize is that our ankles (pretty though they may be) are not used to wearing heels and that can cause a problem. When I started wearing my mother's pretty scrappy heels at age 11, I had no difficulty. When she found that I really needed to wear heels, we shared everything. As I aged, my heel walking became quite feminine and I loved to wear these with slacks, skirts and dresses (all, at first, borrowed from my mother). Then, I began to build my femme wardrobe and became a full-time TG girl. What I have found as I aged, is that my ankles have become a bit weaker and, as result, have to resort to wider heels to compensate. Recently, I purchased a pair of Bella Vita almond toe pumps from Nordstrom. These are so sexy as they have a 4" heel with an almond shaped toe. The heel is a block heel and they are sooo comfortable to wear when I am out on a late date. Try some of these, girls, to see if you have the same experience.


  • john v

    I started wearing heels at the age nine, they were my mother's the heels that she had were four inch's high.
    now at the age of sixth nine, I were six inch heels and higher with a platform with no problem and with short skirts and dress's.
    thank god my legs are still nice to look at. I love heels the higher the better. thank you,

    john v

  • Niki

    Excellent advice! I started in 4" black pumps and black pantyhose. My wife coached me and it wasn't long with her encouragement and the full length mirror that I felt the natural fem swagger. She then coached me to keep my elbows in and hands out and swinging behind me. I prefer heels with a small platform. They seem to give me more support. The first time we went out in San Francisco together, I wore 5" platform strappy sandals, which I practiced in for weeks. I received lots of compliments on them and praises from women who said they could never go out in them lol. On a daily basis around the house, I prefer the clear 3"-5" mule pageant heels. I like seeing my shiny pantyhose through the clear and they don't cramp my toes. Get in heels girls, they will change your life :)


  • Princess

    People normally and naturally walk with the heel striking the ground first. If you have lived in the 'northland' where ice and frozen snow are common, you either discover or innately know that you must strike the ball of your feet first. If you strike your heel first on slippery surfaces, you WILL slip and fall. Walking in heels, to me, is the same as walking on ice. I MUST strike the ball of my feet first. I find that I can also strike my feet rather flat, with the ball and heel touching at the same time. But striking the heel first is masculine, risky, and hard on the shoes heels.


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