Are You a Fetish Crossdresser? (It's Great if You Are!)

Fetish Crossdressing in Leather and Lace

Are You a Fetish Crossdresser? (It's Great if You Are!)

Many crossdressers start out as fetish crossdressers.

Some crossdressers progress into fully presenting as a woman and some simply stay as they are—enjoying the fetish they have and the time when they engage in it!

Many fetishists find an item of female clothing, or the style of a garment from En Femme’s great clothing range, or a special type of outfit which they particularly like—and get great pleasure from wearing such item (or similar items) over and over again. Some crossdressers have no need to wear more than several female items and may never go all the way and fully present as a woman; they may never go out and meet others, being content just stay at home or in a hotel and indulge in their fetish for things feminine.

Not that there is anything wrong with this; they are quite content, enjoying their interest and bothering no one.

There are so many fetishes we can talk about but we’ll have a look at the top 5, and you can see if any of these sound familiar!

In no particular order, some popular fetishes:

  1. Women’s Underwear: Possibly because such items of clothing are the most accessible, so many crossdressers start out by wearing panties and a bra. Indeed, no matter where they end up, many crossdressers can still remember the very first time they fastened a bra behind their back, filled out the bra cups with old nylons or bird seed or whatever was to hand. They can still remember the first time they pulled on a pair of silky panties and how they felt as the soft fabric brushed against their thighs and enveloped their nether regions. And, of course once they had tried wearing a set of women’s underwear, our crossdresser was absolutely, totally hooked; the feelings, the sensations would live with him forever. Over time, our fetish crossdresser may order all sorts of styles of bras and panties from the En Femme website, but he stays loyal to simply wearing women’s underwear. He just likes it so much!


  • Stockings and Garters: The fetish of many crossdressers to wear stockings and garters is often linked to wearing underwear as mentioned above. In some ways stockings and garters portray that sensual, sexy image that many crossdressers are looking to recreate when they dress. Often worn with or as part of a corset or other sexy upper garment, it’s not uncommon for many crossdressers to build their whole style or appearance around these items of clothing, maybe adopting a heavy, sexual type of makeup, with low-cut tops and short skirts. The sheer, black, soft nylons held up with a well-fitting garter, the tension in the garter tabs evident every time our crossdresser moves… Why change if you really enjoy the feelings?
  • Mini Skirt and High Heels: Again, interlinked to some extent to the above fetishes, wearing micro mini-skirts and 4” or 6” high heels at every available opportunity are activities many crossdressers revel in. Who doesn’t love to show off their long, shapely legs? Who doesn’t love to strut around teetering on very high heels—and get intoxicated by the feelings which wash over them when they look in the mirror and see their sexy legs and skirts? Maybe this fetish is one of the very favorites as some crossdressers seem to have such great legs, perhaps due to their exercise they do or the diet they follow. Whatever the reason, if you’ve got them, show them, even if you are likely to get some strange looks while prancing around the local shopping centre in the middle of a Saturday lunchtime in your mini skirt and 6” black patent leather, strappy heels! 
  • Uniforms: Now this is an interesting one. How many crossdressers have a fetish for uniforms or outfits? The one that comes quickly to mind is the French maid uniform—white frilly apron, short working dress, frilly panties, and white head wear. It’s easy to lose count of how many crossdressers like to prance around (often wearing stockings and garters too) doing some housework and, seemingly, forever looking in the mirror at themselves in uniform! Of course, there are plenty of other uniforms out there such as a nurse’s uniform or maybe a female superhero outfit. Indeed, with the advent of cosplay and its huge popularity, more and more crossdressers are taking to wearing uniforms... might be time to dust off one of your old outfits or buy a new outfit/uniform from En Femme! 
  • Rubber or Latex: Always one of the perennial favorites of fetish crossdressers, rubber or latex clothing comes in all sorts of varieties and variations. Maybe rubber underwear or mini-skirts or tight-fitting tops which leave little to the imagination. Then there are skin-tight, roll-on latex all-in-one suits, sometimes used in conjunction with female masks which give the wearer a totally female look (a sub-fetish known as masking) or more often just items of rubber or latex wear to give pleasure and enjoyment to the wearer—often by their tight, restrictive nature… and maybe for enhanced enjoyment in role-play or light bondage


As we all know, within the crossdressing and T-girl communities there are a myriad of varieties, shades and colors of people. We are all unique and all like different things and experiences. So whatever your fetish, go for it and don’t be concerned about what others may think—it’s still just about a free world!


  • angela

    This question peaked my interest so it is an absolute fabulous joy to answer it.
    When I was 10 or 12 my mother left a pair of nylon stockings and black high heeled shoes in the family bathroom. Out of curiosity I tried the stockings on. The sensation was immediate joy. I was in absolute heaven!!!!! I had to have it all. Something inside me had been aroused. Yes it was sexual but it was also something in my heart. From somewhere inside I had awakened the female part of me. It could be said in a manner of speaking that I had gone from 0 to 275 mph in a matter of minutes. Next came the high heel shoes and the sensation was stronger. As an added bonus I found a pair of panties. There was a mirror hanging on the back of the bathroom wall and as I gazed at the image looking back at me I trembled with such pleasure and joy. I knew then what path my life was going to take. My awareness was only half emerged in my consciousness yet my heart was resonating with the image in the mirror.
    There was energy shifting on all levels, mind, heart, spirit. Yet I was still fixated on the one thing that had initiated this blossoming; the nylon stocking. I scrutinized every detail of these gift from  the goddess Castina; the seam running up the back, the name "Triumph" in baby blue embossed at the top left side  of one of the pair of the stockings along the band. directly beneath the brand name in the same color was an image of a long stemmed rose. The words 474 needle all nylon pat heel & toe were printed next to that. I guess today they would be considered vintage. It's a given that production of this beautiful hosiery stopped years ago. I was fortunate enough to have the presence of mind to seek out a pair or two to purchase.
    It took until I was 19 to find them. I had to go all the way to Los Angeles; the garment district where I snapped up half a dozen pair.

  • angela

    As I mentioned before, I had to have it all, but that first day I did have a fetish which was only the beginning of many phases to come. At 15 I was lucky enough to become a working musician translation; not professional but play for pay. An easy job and lots of $ to finance my new found pursuit. And yet it took until I was 19 to work the nerve up to start my wardrobe. Finance was not an issue, overcoming fear of what others thought seemed more insurmountable. I left for college at 17 and was free at last to indulge my pleasures. Aside from collecting my own wardrobe of dresses, skirts, blouses, shoes of every style and color, I also grew my hair long and carefully lost the right amount of weight to match my height. I never was able to grow a full beard real beard and my overall body except my head and genital area was hairless.
    This was indeed a concerted effort to "be more female" or at least portraying the feminine.
    After much effort I have arrived at a place where I want to be; a Latina non-op transwoman. But I still look back on that young boy who had discovered a very special personal Christmas that balmy April Saturday afternoon and think I gave myself my own gift and am still doing so to this very day. And to those who feel as I do now and how I felt on that special day, I say enjoy and live this gift you give to yourself. Before you can love others you must love yourself. So live and love yourself then go out and love others.
    With heartfelt sincerity,
    Angela Isabel Esparza,

  • Susie

    A joy to read this great article by Kathy. I have evolved to various outfits that almost always involves bra, panties, pantyhose, control brief and heels. I have never gone as far as make-up, wigs etc so never fully present as a woman and probably never will. I am blissfully content to dress up in private and words can't describe the thrill when lastly I insert the breast-forms in my full cup bra…..
    While I must wear all my foundation garments, my favorite is definitely my bras. I have a large collection of them and they give me much pleasure. My motto is "a man can't have too many bras".
    Thanks for all the great articles!

  • Danielle

    Yeah for me it's always been lace teddies,the way they fit ,feel and look along with a pair of six inch stilettos OMG pure ecstasy

  • Danielle

    I don't know if it was a fetish ,as long as I can remember (age 3 or 4) seeing my female relatives get dressed I knew I had to do it-and wanted too- I am a girl. The first garment I wore was lace panties.I was six years old, as I got older into my teen years I started wearing lace teddies under everything.Now I'm a pre-op T-grrrl I wear the garter belt ,stockings,push-up bra,thong,mini-skirt and six inch stilletto heels,that is my basic uniform but when I really want to feel feminine I always go back to my teddies.So maybe I do have a fetish. YAY

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